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I can't say I'm in love, but, I'm definately in something...Lust is a good description...(can I say that here?)...and I really do have feelings about him, but I guess the thought of getting hurt again is too much to deal with, so for now, let's call it a really good friendship for now, and see where it might go...

Theresa, I hope things get better for you, and I'm sure they will, it just takes time...

Heidi

"I've got a great ambition to die of exhaustion rather than boredom." Thomas Carlyle

Blondie, do you have friends who you can talk to abbout this? It sounds like you're going to need a lot of support if things are ever going to change for you. It's amazing what some people (especially women) will put up with in a relationship. You're worth WAY more than the treatment you're getting right now. Stay strong.

mmMMMmm Cheese!

you and whetu can share the wine as I dont' drink .

I'd still beat him up for ya if ya want...all 5' 2" of me . I just hope I do have the strength to run if it did happen to me .

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Oh boy! Can I have some cheese with my whine? You know as well as I do that it's all up to me. This is one kind of love that if you ever see yourself slipping into, run!!!!!!! And one more thing, the only one who can make you happy is you. I have two great daughters to talk to. They will support me whatever I do. I've had some bad things go wrong the last few years and I guess thats why I'm still here.

Awww blondie !
If he's not gonna worship the ground you walk on, walk right over him and out that door!

It's a 50/50 world, otherwise stuff goes off balance! If he's not going to respect you and care about you that's neglect. If he's not going to respect and appreaciate the work you do that's just wrong.

*hugs*

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Thanks for the whine and cheese!

I totally agree it's up to each one of us to make ourselves happy. But I've also watched people very close to me let themselves be taken for granted (and worse) by people around them.

I'm glad to hear you have support from your daughters. And I'm glad you posted your story here. I think there are a lot of people who might relate to your story and feel that they're not the only one. There are plenty of intelligent, brave, capable women who are too scared or embarrassed to tell people how unhappy they are at home.

So it's your choice to stay and it'll be your choice when you leave. Just know you're not alone.

*takes babel's share of the whine* chink!

!MADLY!
my wife n i just got hitched last april, but weve been together for almost 7yrs. funny how sometimes u can be psychic. i knew i was gonna marry that girl on our first date. just hits ya that way sometimes. it wasnt like any other first date i ever had. i wasnt nervous, or overly anxious. just comfortable. thats been our whole relationship. it just fits, being together n married. looking to start a family. used to be the last thing i wanted. but i tell ya what, now it suits me right to the core.

Theresa, you have my admiration. My sister and I treated my stepmother so badly that I decided that I would never marry a man with children. I am sure the karma and payback would be horrible. Hang in there, I now have a very deep love and respect for my stepmother. Good luck.

I'm not in love because I don't have time.

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errrm well, I guess for me it's close to what calla was talking about. I'm not really in a spot to be "in love" right now, I'm far too busy just trying to keep my head above water, too busy surviving I guess. Similar situation, sort of, but for different reasons and in different ways if that makes sense.

Sometimes I do long for that old "in love" feeling but I just don't have it in me to maintain that right now, I'm much better just being comfortable with a friend that I still love and can talk to, just most of the "passion" and whatnot has been put on hold for a while. Am I really happy with that, no not really but I know it's what I need.

I'm looking forward to getting back into a lot of things as I get my health straightened out, being in love is one of many.

Ahh it's not just me either, he's struggling with newly diagnosed autism as well so we're just in a rough spot, we still love one another but it's been put on hold for now.

I'm getting more and more confused as I write this. :%)

Voted for: Other.

LUCKY BUGGER!!!

Wish I found 'the one' or even just 'one'!

one was so real it hurt even when it felt good

That would describe my entire marriage.

Koi

Empty chairs at empty tables, the room silent, forlorn.

Jamie and I have been together for almost 3 yrs now, and every time I see her I am still filled with a feeling that I have no words for.

After a long time of waiting and hoping I have finally been able to move back from DC to Florida so we can have a life together. It’s been almost a month now and it has been nothing but pleasure.

Madly, truly, deeply in love.

I was a late starter to love and marriage. Got there when I was 40. Partly because I've travelling for a long time and partly (ok mostly) because I was very single and very much enjoying being single.Been married for almost 2 years now.

But I couldn't and get imagine spending the rest of my life without her so I willingly and gladly gave that life up. We have a few problems and will have many more to come. Apart from the normal relationship ups and downs we've got a few additional headaches such as cultural differences (she's Indonesian), citizenship problems (dumb local laws), where we will end up living full time etc but we work thru it, as a team and partners.

We laugh a lot and have a lot of fun together and are great friends. We enjoy each others company (no kids yet)so marriage is something I associate with fun and happiness at the moment.

Good God, she got me to wear a skirt and flowers in my hair on our wedding day, do you think I'd do that for just anybody ? Course I'm in love

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Some days you're the pigeon and some days you're the statue.

Remember that age and treachery will always triumph over youth and ability.

I am not but thats a choice. I have loved twice and one was so real it hurt even when it felt good (in a good way and not that "puppy love" ). After that was done with i made a decision not to allow that to happen again. That was 6 years ago now, heh... feels weird just thinking about it.

To those in this thread having trouble or a rough patch, hang in there and i hope you come through unscathed although to be honest i think those hard times can make you so much stronger so i wish you the very best, now and for the future.

-DL

Last edited by Dark Lotus at 21-Nov-2004 02:19

Cake > Pie

I meant in no way to diminish the 'realness' of your butterflies Tam, perhaps i should have been a bit more specific, but at the time i was grouchy and not well rested. Love is one of those tricky things to describe at the best of times

its not that its not realistic past a certain point, its just that for me at least, i dont think its realistic CONSTANTLY... how on earth would you get anything done?

I do still get that feeling (albeit not quite as intense, there is a sense of familiarity now) but i also like the fact that we can just be really good friends at times.

I like the fact that we can annoy each other and still be able to be together, i dont think we have ever had an arguement, disagreements sure, but not the sort of arguements that come with the intense passion of being in love.

Perhaps what i am describing is "comfortably in love", not just love. Its a very warm place to be, its not stressful, and its comes with this sort of unwritten guarantee that it wont be painful because of that deep friendship and understanding of each other. (aware nobody can guarantee that, but its a lovely way to feel anyway )

Does that make more sense?

For animals, the entire universe has been neatly divided into things to (a) mate with, (b) eat, (c) run away from, and (d) rocks. - Terry Pratchett

Nope. & that's the way i likes it
... for where i'm at at the moment it works just fine for me

Sin

I'm not shure if i am.

uuum... ok

~!!I lOve LiFe!!~

VOTED YES YES YES YES YES!!!

I mean, whats the point of dating in high school?

First of all, for the pure fact that it's fun! I met my boyfriend in my freshman year and we have been inseperable since then. In fact, we have been together for over four years, no breakups, minimul fights, and we are getting engaged this Christmas.
Most people would say "You're too young, blah dee blah..." But you know what? If you feel it, you feel it. Life is way too short and fragile to not ever act upon love. You've always heard the saying about not ever holding back telling someone you love them because you never know what will happen tomorrow.
Randy is my best friend and the love of my life and I don't regret a day, good or bad, that I have been with him.
Because of the seriousness of our relationship so young, we have definitely been through some tough times (Esspecially with the parents, but I understand their worries. Both his and my mom had us at 16.), but you will get through them if (like someone said) you think about why you got married in the first place.
I wish you the best of luck!!!
Babe

Last edited by chocobobabe at 19-Nov-2004 06:19