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Anti-Fishman, please explain 'type kill in console'. Not quite sure what you mean, thanks.

The Amazon Nut...

He's asleep! So right now I love him. I do have big time issues with this old man. He forgets I'm alive most of the time, is messy and never talks to me. And I mean if he asks whats for supper he's said alot. I knew all this within a week of meeting him and after 6 years I'm still here. Ask him who his best friend is and he'll tell you, it's a gal in another city 90 miles away. He pays some of her bills to. Me, he puts a roof over my head as long as I cook and clean, spend any money I get on him and look nice if anyone comes over. He forgets Christmas and birthdays. And gets mad if you forget his or the gift isn't huge. I sit at home without a car or money most of the time, while he's out having coffee with his friends. He tells them I wasn't feeling well. I've lost all respect for myself for staying. Like I say, big time issues. One day soon I'll walk out that door and he wont even know why.

Blondie, do you have friends who you can talk to abbout this? It sounds like you're going to need a lot of support if things are ever going to change for you. It's amazing what some people (especially women) will put up with in a relationship. You're worth WAY more than the treatment you're getting right now. Stay strong.

Awww blondie !
If he's not gonna worship the ground you walk on, walk right over him and out that door!

It's a 50/50 world, otherwise stuff goes off balance! If he's not going to respect you and care about you that's neglect. If he's not going to respect and appreaciate the work you do that's just wrong.

*hugs*

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Oh boy! Can I have some cheese with my whine? You know as well as I do that it's all up to me. This is one kind of love that if you ever see yourself slipping into, run!!!!!!! And one more thing, the only one who can make you happy is you. I have two great daughters to talk to. They will support me whatever I do. I've had some bad things go wrong the last few years and I guess thats why I'm still here.

mmMMMmm Cheese!

you and whetu can share the wine as I dont' drink .

I'd still beat him up for ya if ya want...all 5' 2" of me . I just hope I do have the strength to run if it did happen to me .

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Thanks for the whine and cheese!

I totally agree it's up to each one of us to make ourselves happy. But I've also watched people very close to me let themselves be taken for granted (and worse) by people around them.

I'm glad to hear you have support from your daughters. And I'm glad you posted your story here. I think there are a lot of people who might relate to your story and feel that they're not the only one. There are plenty of intelligent, brave, capable women who are too scared or embarrassed to tell people how unhappy they are at home.

So it's your choice to stay and it'll be your choice when you leave. Just know you're not alone.

*takes babel's share of the whine* chink!

I'm still shopping 'round.
Sounds good until I sit and think about how long it has been since I have been on an actual date. (most recent was a guy I met on jury duty of all places!)

Lots of people say they met through friends but when I ask my friends to bring single men they say they don't know any.

I am not good at the going to bars thing (too shy, takes me a bit to open up)

For ages I didn't open this thread because I knew I would have to answer 'no' to the question but I am glad I clicked on this thread as people are sharing and concerned.

Good for you guys who are so supportive.

All the best to those having struggles.



Last edited by wish-ga at 01-Dec-2004 17:11

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~~~ My fish blow kisses at me all day long ~~~

I guess I'm "other"... I've got a person, but I don't know how to describe our relationship. Err.... it's all in limbo right now, really. I'm not sure about anything anymore :%).

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They shade the glow of it with their mossy-misty costumes,
They wear masks of silk, porcelain, brass, and silver,
So as not to mislead with their own, ordinary faces.

<-- voted yes, second time round for me as well. Met my partner online, we were killing each other on an online game and became friends. From there it blossomed

Still not sure about the marriage thing again though

Life begins after a divorce-if you let it, I promise. Just give yourself time to get to know what you really want in life and what's most important to you before jumping back into a relationship.
Being without a partner is not as scary as you might think :88)

Other
First, I hope things work out for you Theresa. ((hugs))

I have conficting feelings for someone right now. He is much older than I am (21 years older), wants to remarry and have more kids (not necessarily with me). The relationship is still new and probibly won't go any further because although I could consider doing the marraige thing, I don't know if I really want children. I find my heart and mind fighting over wether I should just end things totally or enjoy what we have and let things take their course. Probibly more information than you wanted.

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I used to be Snow White, but I drifted.
~ Mae West

Sorry to hear your having a rough time Theresa, hope everything work out for you. I almost feel guilty telling everyone how much in love I am with my wife with knowing good people like yourself are having tough times. Give it time, we all go through it. At one time you thought enough of him to marry him, and the same for him with you. Maybe think about what got you 2 there to begin with.

Voted for Other

Awww Theresa want me to beat him up for ya .


Yeah ....emm...don't got nobody really ....there are plenty of people I care about deeply but I'm not sure I could classify it as love .

"Love, I don't know love"~The Fifth Element.

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Oh I'm a 'yes', fortunately that's not been an issue.

This is a second marriage for both of us and we went thru a lot to get to this point...our divorces, kids & stepkids, me moving from MI to Canada, then moving to MD, him getting residency, blah blah blah It's five years since we met, married for almost three and I have no regrets


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There is water at the bottom of the ocean

Hi,
I'm sorry to read of the difficult times.
Susan and I just celebrated our 27th anniversary in
October. It is our second, and we blended families.
She came with one son, and 6 months after we married
we took my ex to court and won permanent custody of my
two boys. So, within 6 months of the wedding we went
from a family of 3 to a family of five, two dogs, and
a 55 gallon tank. The dogs produced many litters, and
lead to some "birds and bees" discussions with the
younger two boys.

The keys to our marriage are communication and friendship.
We were best friends first, and lovers later.
We hold hands while walking, kiss frequently during
the day, and never go to bed upset with each other.
We are fortunate to be able to work together, and in
a sense are making up for all those 9 and 10 month
cruises that I took while in the navy.

And, perhaps the most important part, I learned to say
"YES DEAR" with just the proper tonal inflection.. (sans
sarcasim )

Frank


-->>> The Confidence of Amateurs, is the Envy of Professionals <<<--

Second time for me too and still in love. Stepkids are tough and I really haven't worked all the bugs out of that yet but everything else works fine.

I hope things get better for you.

Mike

no I'm not

I don't have the time or patience to play silly games with the girls at my school. I will just wait, until some sincere person comes along. I'm just not willing to "play the game". The lies are all that matter at my age, so I'm staying out of it.

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And when he gets to Heaven, to Saint Peter he will tell: "One more Marine reporting, Sir! I've served my time in Hell."

No, but I don't think it requires an angry, nagging smiley! What's that about?

-Molly
Visit shelldwellers.com!

Sorry about your troubles Theresa At least you have your wonderful hubby and children so you don't have to face the rough times alone.

Yes, I definitely am in love. Though we didn't start dating until a year after we met (like Frank and Susan, we were best friends before we went anywhere else with our relationship), racso had me at hello

&gt;&lt;&gt;Dani&lt;&gt;&lt;

****IN LOVE****

Im lucky enough to be with someone that I look at everyday and feel blessed that I get to share her life. She loves me warts and all - and loves everything in the world - just because life makes her excited!!! I could not be with a more amazing person.


Such 'genuine innocence' is hard to find these days - but so refreshing when you do.

Frank - Im so happy that you and your family made it through those times - they arent easy. The words of wisdom you had are the ones im just learning. 'Yes dear' is a blessing to us all

Sir Books - learn to play the games mate - life is a big game (a very fun game). How you play it will judge how much you enjoy it

Theresa - isnt is nice to know that if you can survive those tough times - everything else is a breeze Im glad you and family are happy



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Last edited by -Chris- at 17-Nov-2004 19:13

I am not sure what you are going through, but if you need someone to talk to just hollar. I am currently in the middle of a divorce. It is tough, very tough, but there is light at the end of the tunnel, I just know there is......

Koi

*HUG*!!!!!!!!!!

Empty chairs at empty tables, the room silent, forlorn.

Sorry to hear that you are going through some rough times. I can relate as Danielle and I are also going through some rough times.

But that is just one reason why I love her. She's right there for me when I need her, even after I take my anger out on her. She accepts me for who I am, not what I am.

Plus she's cute too

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SINGS

"I&#8217;m not in love, so don&#8217;t forget it
It&#8217;s just a silly phase I&#8217;m going through
And just because I call you up
Don&#8217;t get me wrong, don&#8217;t think you&#8217;ve got it made.
I&#8217;m not in love, no no!

It&#8217;s because ...

I like to see you, but then again
That doesn&#8217;t mean you mean that much to me
So if I call you, don&#8217;t make a fuss
Don&#8217;t tell your friends about the two of us
I&#8217;m not in love, no no!
It&#8217;s because ...

Be quiet, Big boys don&#8217;t cry, Big boys don&#8217;t cry, Big boys don&#8217;t cry, Big boys don&#8217;t cry, Big boys don&#8217;t cry, Big boys don&#8217;t cry

I keep your picture upon the wall
It hides a nasty stain that&#8217;s lying there
So don&#8217;t you ask me to give it back
I know you know it doesn&#8217;t mean that much to me
I&#8217;m not in love, no no!
It&#8217;s because

Ooh, you&#8217;ll wait a long time for me
Ooh, you&#8217;ll wait a long time

I&#8217;m not in love, so don&#8217;t forget it
It&#8217;s just a silly phase I&#8217;m going through
And just because I call you up
Don&#8217;t get me wrong, don&#8217;t think you&#8217;ve got it made
I&#8217;m not in love, I&#8217;m not in love."

Spouse and I have been going thru a bit of a rough time, so I thought I'd post this question: right now, today, are you in love? Not with your children, fish, or other pets but with your spouse or a significant other.

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There is water at the bottom of the ocean

...am currently single, again.

LADIIEEEES?

Just kidding.

Other...?

Ummmm well I seem to be in a constant state of wondering if particular guys have any feelings for me as far as "love" and asking myself the same question about them. Meh, college sophomore and I haven't had a boyfriend since kindergarten. Haven't ever had a proper date. I might as well say no.

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other.......
i dont really have any time any more with school,sports and my fish where would i fit any 1 in?

Hmmmmm...

No.

Toughy that one.

Oh and i hope things sort out for you.

-- Gomer

I fell in love with Hank before I ever set eyes on him.

He and I both were coming off pretty horrible relationships and a friend of both of us introduced us via the internet. Imagine the whole 'You've Got Mail' scenario, only 270 miles apart. The day we finally met in person was a confirmation of what we both were feeling but felt too silly to say in email. He came to visit me on Valentines Day almost five years ago and hasn't left yet! (Well, OK, mini visits back to New York, but that be it)

He is the love of my life.

other (please explain)

I am the realist here perhaps. This very moment, no, i'm not in love. I love my BF dearly, but right now, i do not feel IN LOVE, and that is perfectly fine by me. Hopefully by him too

I suppose it depends on how you define IN LOVE and LOVE.

For me, in love is butterflies, or that smile lighting up the room, or just that warm feeling.

Currently, i have a few personal issues to deal with, and i am running somewhat on autopilot, so being IN LOVE has had to take a back seat to NOT FALLING TO BITS.

my NOT FALLING TO BITS is very important to my BF, so if that means that i have only brief periods of IN LOVE during a day, then i think thats gotta be acceptable really.

Besides, butterflies all the time is EXHAUSTING!

Don't get me wrong, this guy is my best friend, my one and only etc etc, but as your question was at this very moment, and you seemed to be searching, then, well, i told the truth as it stands tonight.



For animals, the entire universe has been neatly divided into things to (a) mate with, (b) eat, (c) run away from, and (d) rocks. - Terry Pratchett

I was once, with him for 8 years and married for over 5. But being left with a 16 month old baby (who was sick with problems of being premature) and no job kinda killed that. I guess I have decided that the only one I can rely on is myself. That makes it hard for some people to deal with. I am too independant now.

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If at first you DO succeed, try not to look astonished.

Nope. Nope. Nope. The only man in my life is two and a half feet tall, bald headed and has five teeth.

I was once, with him for 8 years and married for over 5. But being left with a 16 month old baby (who was sick with problems of being premature) and no job kinda killed that. I guess I have decided that the only one I can rely on is myself. That makes it hard for some people to deal with. I am too independant now.

AMEN

7 years 2 kids

Koi

Empty chairs at empty tables, the room silent, forlorn.

My wife and I celebrated 31 yrs of married life last May.
The level of love, freindship, respect, and dedication to each other has become more solid and stable over the years.

We have gone through a lot, as most relationships have.
But the most trying was when I had my heart attack last year,it drew us closer which I did not think possable, because I thought we were as close as we could be.

I wish that all couples can feel the same as I do now after the length of time together.
I know that most of what I have said sounds like a clich&#233;, and sounds very soppy, but believe me it is true.
Theresa, I trully hope everthing works out for you, I am sure with a little work it will.
All the best to you.
Tom.

sorry about that,


yes i guess so, i know i have no chance tho but wat the hey

Actually Calla...

What I am feeling is very real. I almost feel sorry for someone that thinks that the "in love" feeling doesn't exist or isn't realistic past a certain point in a relationship.

I STILL get the "butterflies" that you talk about when I look across the room and see Hank. I still am amazed that such a man picked me. I am every bit (if not more) IN love with him today as the first day that my heart skipped a beat when he first touched my arm.

I can tell you this, I have loved three men in my life. Never once have I felt the intensity of love that I do with Hank. I thank my lucky stars every day that I was blessed with this kind of relationship.

Theresa... I am so sorry that you are going through what you are. I know it is tough. If you want an unbiased mind to bounce thoughts off of, I am here. Take Care...

Tammy

Nah.. Im not really into all of that dating stuff- at least not now. All the guys in high school are still pretty immature(not saying im not HAHA ). but I have seen a few of my best friends go through the pain of breaking up and everything and i dont wanna go through that. I mean, whats the point of dating in high school? i think im gonna wait till after high school to really start dating cause then theres actually a point. and right now i really dont have time with school, and taking care of my fish and rodents!!!
-kristin

~!!I lOve LiFe!!~