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I know this is a bit off topic but I need to fill up the forums with needless ranting. . .

It makes me so mad to know that I have the time, money, resources and knowledge to run a 55+ gallon tank and your parents won't let you have anything bigger than a ten. . .they won't even give me a maybe! I don't know what their problem is, it's my money and stays in my room where they never have to see it. . .grr

(this would be me right about now, real mature I know

Heck I even researched the strata, bio-type, compatibility, size issues, and ph/hardness/temp and for what? I am moving out!

i know what u mean i want a 180 liter salt water tank but as i all ready have one that size which is tropical they say no. so i made a powerpoint to show wat it is like and they said yes But i know how u feel

Hi
Venting can sometimes be good as long as it does not
become destructive.

There could be at least a couple of things involved
with the situation.
First, anytime a child wants a pet, the parents are
torn between the companionship the child will experience
with the pet, and the growth the child will experience
as the pet(s) require the responsibility of ownership.
They have to be cared for, fed, cleaned up after, and
they get sick and sometimes die. All are life experiences
that help the child mature. And, of course, when the
child grows into something else, the parents are "stuck"
with taking care of something that they may not want to
have in the first place.

Second, 55 gallons of water can make one heck of a mess
if something should happen.

What does your 10G tank look like? Is it a pleasing
addition to your room or just a noisy, smelling aquarium
that is surrounded by dirty clothes, stacked books and
scattered papers?

Does the tank look like one of these:
http://showcase.aquatic-gardeners.org/2005.cgi

Do your parents think that this is just another fad that
you will soon out grow and leave the tank languishing
somewhere?

Think about it, and chat with them. Perhaps, over time
you will win them over.

Frank


-->>> The Confidence of Amateurs, is the Envy of Professionals <<<--

thats what happened to me b4. and than 17 tanks later. just keep nagging.

That stinks but you could work your way around it, you could get 5 ten gallons and hook them together with fish bridges. That would be a sweet setup IMO.

"A noble spirit embiggens the smallest man" Simpsons

I agree with a lot that Frank has to say. As the parent of 6 grown children and 7 grandchildren, I've had to deal with a lot of abandoned hobbies, whimsies, etc..

Have you actually sat down and discussed in a "RESPECTABLE" manner as to why they don't want you to have this size of aquarium? Maybe if you could actually determine what their objections are, you could work to overcome them, or prove that you have the desire and capability to keep up with and maintain the tank over a long period of time.

Ask them what "YOU" can do to prove to them your abilities and what would it take to allow you to have the larger tank.

Jim

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Water, taken in moderation, cannot hurt anybody. -- Mark Twain

I agree with Frank, as well.

Plus, it is better to save the 55g for your first apartment ^_^ There is still alot you can do with a 10g or a few mini-bows...

Inky

My first tank was a 10g and after awhile I started asking for another tank. I had to ask many times before they let me buy my 55g. I had it all planned out and told them about it. I ended up moving downstairs after I bought it because they were afraid of how much it would weigh filled up. So I got a new room and a new tank. Now I also have a 29g and an empty 38g. I keep telling them that we have walls to fill so I need more fish tanks. I think this is all I'm going to have though, until I move out.

*Kristin*

thanks guys

Feel a bit better, but they are really poed at me over something really stupid-and completely unrelated. The talking thing isn't going to happen, and it's a beautiful tank, and I am really responsible with it, but they flat out won't talk about it. If I even ask them their objections they will get even madder-trust me been there, done that.

And it's not like it's a huge money investment to them. . .sheesh

I hear ya...I felt the same way. I mean they wouldn't have to take care of it or pay for it (my parents).

Give them some time and then bring it up again. Maybe if they have time to chill and forget it (for now) then you will get a little further with them next time. Good luck! I hope you get the 55g soon!

*Kristin*

some members have brought up a good point, about not sticking with it, really just keep ur tank for about 6+ months and try again, or wait til ur birthday.

Rats. That's a bummer. Guess what. When you are older it doesn't get much better. Instead you just have to negotiate with the other 1/2 or have internal mechanisms to regulate.

Sorry the news was bad but you may as well find out now.

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~~~ My fish blow kisses at me all day long ~~~

Hahah I used to get hassle from everyone when I buy new pets but now if I look depressed and surly they buy me fish . I thinks its pointless resistance to change that people have trouble with.

Ive never had much use for parents myself, they can be a bit thick, but hey, its their house. When you get your own place you can fill it with fish , camels, small humpback whales , whatever you like. Then the tricky bit is finding a partner that will put up with it. Fortunately I have a partner who is really easy to emotionally blackmail
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"Those fish there are yours , I bought them for you, arent they pretty?"

"coo"

"I was thinking of a nice 120 gallon for the hallway.."

"er....ok...I guess."

Sucker