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Get a tux with tails. There is no such thing as over the top. Get a tophat too if possible.

my first bit of advice: get advice from fellow Australians!

But apart from that I agree with everything Mike recommends. Pay lots of attention to her, make her feel really special. Open doors, offer to get her another drink as soon as her glass is empty (non-alc of course!) Compliment her on how lovely she looks, and be nice to her mother!

*waits for Billy to come along and advise on all the smooth moves*

Get a tux with tails. There is no such thing as over the top.

I'm not a over the top person.
I was actually thinking about a more "casual" clothing than a tux.
Maybe like a business suit with a shirt.
I don't know if white business shirt is good or a more darker coloured one.
I'd like just to wear a suit, shirt, and a tie.
Is that the right way to go? Boy I have no idea, it's the first time for me.....
SO HELP OUT PLEASE!!!

I can do everything else just fine.

and be nice to her mother!

why's that? not that i won't be nice to her mother,
but are you suggesting i should pay a bit more special attention to her mother?

Last edited by JQW at 26-Feb-2005 04:26

Because it's nice to be polite to mothers, they're the most important people in the world behind grandparents!

Don't go with white. For one straight white and straight black don't photograph all that well (yeah yeah yeah I know what you're saying). For another it's too boring...go with some color. Once you know what color her dress is you can either try to match it (will look wrong if it's close but not exact) or go with something that compliments.
Dont' take it lightly, even if it's just for her sake, it seems alot of times girls put alot of thought into prom/formal and yeah....

Otherwise I've got nothing, I never went

^_^[hr width='40%']"There’s an emptiness inside her. And she’d do anything to fill it in.
And though it’s red blood bleeding from her now. It's more like cold blue ice in her heart.
She feels like kicking out all the windows. And setting fire to this life."

J, i would suggest a casual style shirt, with a coloured dinner suit, perhaps deep royal blue? everyone wears black, and really, its not very expressive, and its hard for a girl to find you in a crowd

My fave formal outfits have been a banana yellow dinnersuit, a black tux with tails and a tophat, and a slightly more casual look of the black 3/4 jacket (can't think of the correct name, not quite tails) with a ratcatcher shirt and no tie.

However, it is a FORMAL, so there is a limit to how casual you can go.


I wore a long burgundy velvet dress, 6 splits up to mid-thigh, lace up front and back If only I had had knee length high heel boots I wore some clunky sandal type things, like school shoes, and black stockings.

At my BFs formal, i had my hair in a modified french roll, with a pouffy fringe, somewhat like ballroom dancers have, but a bit more relaxed. At my friend's one, I just had a simple bun. The professional hair made a big difference though.


For animals, the entire universe has been neatly divided into things to (a) mate with, (b) eat, (c) run away from, and (d) rocks. - Terry Pratchett

I would try and find out how "formal" your date is going to be dressed.

If the girl wishes to be in some elegant gown you don't want to be too casual. On the other hand, if your date is going to wear a simple dress you don't want to be more "formal" than she is. Impress her by making this "her night". However formal she wants your night to be, go with it. Girls like that sorta thing...

The whole concept is to complement each other with your attire.

Offer to take her shopping to pick out her dress. Ask her to go along with you to pick out what you are going to wear. Turn one special date into two fun dates.

Last edited by Tammy at 26-Feb-2005 07:37

If its in May, i'd bet she already has the dress

Oh, and flowers!

long stemmed roses are good, but impractical, get a corsage with a wrist attachment (she won't want to damage the dress with a pin)

I'll have to get a photo of what i wore, reading that again, it sounds a bit scary

For animals, the entire universe has been neatly divided into things to (a) mate with, (b) eat, (c) run away from, and (d) rocks. - Terry Pratchett

Since I've already gotten an intro from hetu, I guess I gotta see what suggestions I can make...

As for what you wear, if you're going to go with a tux, take a girl (can be your date or just some other friend...sometimes your date may get a little freaked out about picking out what you wear on ya'll's first date...)...you HAVE to have a girl present in order to pick out a tux cuz they'll tell you if you actually look good in it or if you look like a penguin If you're gonna wear a nice suit, the color of the suit itself isn't the most important part...the accessories are. Depending on her dress color, you can wear a black suit with a light or dark colored shirt in any of the following colors: blue, green, red, purple, brown/tan/peach, pink, yellow, or orange. That's not all the colors available, just the most common ones. After that, choose a tie that compliments the black (or other color of the suit) and the shirt. Don't go with an all blue tie on an all blue shirt, but don't grab an all black tie while wearing a black suit...

As for flowers, a corsage is the way to go. Visit a florist and they can make you a corsage that will go on her wrist. That way, she's got the pretty flower that she can wear initially and remove later, and you don't have to worry about sticking her with a pin (that may be more of a concern for some of us than others)...

Now are they serving dinner at the formal? Some proms do, some don't. The reason this is important is because if they are not serving dinner there, you need to arrange for dinner prior to the formal. If you need to arrange dinner, MOST LIKELY she'll want to have friends along. That means it's your duty to invite her to invite her friends to dinner with ya'll. It is then no longer you duty to make any decisions. Formals/proms are the girl's chance to show off. Your job is to be eye-candy...

Formals are most girls' biggest dates until their wedding day, so all the decisions need to be made to make her the happiest person on Earth for this day and to make this the best memory she's got until her wedding day. All the things would never normally do on a date (spend $$$ on new clothes, rent a limo, bring flowers, open EVERY door (including car doors)[HINT:You should be doing this on all dates anyway], pull out her seat for her at dinner, offer your jacket to her since she'll get cold (they always do), pose for lots of pictures for whoever's taking them without making a fuss (and always look like you want to be in the picture), apologize for everything you do wrong (cuz you'll do stuff wrong, accept that now, it's not a big deal), and look good. You've got the girl on your arm that you wanted to have there, now spend all the time you can showing her that your night's already made because she's there, from here on out, you're just going to do everything you can to make her night as perfect as possible...

There, that's enough to get you started. I'm sure everyone will have even more advice, but at least now you've got a few pointers from my 5 proms...

PM/email/msg me if you have any questions/comments regarding me or my knowledge or if you want me to read a thread.

School formal is comming up. (Not until may, but I'm so excited).
Yesterday I asked the girl I really like to the formal,
she said she'd love to go with me. I'm so happy and excited.
She's an angel.
It's my first time to a formal, and her first time too.
So can anyone give me lots of tips on it?

a dozen roses is too extravagant unless you're already dating right now. a single rose should be fine.

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"That's the trouble with political jokes in this country... they get elected!" -- Dave Lippman

here's a pic of me and my date for our formal to give you an idea of maybe what 2 wear

be nice and courteous, open doors for her, pay for everything, ect, ect, and try to show her your the perfect gentleman

Daka<<<<

Billy forgot to tell you to be nice to her mother. And that's my favourite bit of the Billy-being-smooth lecture

Oh yeah, I left that part out. Take a rose for her in the corsage, but also take a rose for her mom. If you give her a rose too, she'll love you...

PM/email/msg me if you have any questions/comments regarding me or my knowledge or if you want me to read a thread.

Wear a tux.

I made a bad decision and bought a suit when everybody else hired a tux. I went to the formal and it was PENGUIN TOWN . As a result my date disowned me .

Thanks so much everyone.
This community has been so supportive, as it always had been.
What I was thinking about wearing is a nice blue shirt with black suit.
The tie...um...I'll think about that later.
We are not bf and gf at the moment as far as I know,
but we are working on it.
I see her everyday, have classes together, walk home together everyday,
and we go out every friday after school just to sit somewhere quiet and relax together (that was since last week, and we agreed to do it every week).

Oh, and flowers!

Yes, flowers are a must. Please give me some more advice.
I think roses are too original. Anything else that suits this occasion?
And what exactly is a corsage? I know it's stupid for a guy to not know anything, but hey, it's my first time.

I really want this to be a night that is worth remembering.
It's not until May 14, but it's always good to plan early.

Oh and it's on a saturday night. What should we do during the day?

Last edited by JQW at 28-Feb-2005 03:00

If you look at Daka's pic, the corsage is the bunch of flowers that pretty girl is wearing on her wrist. Corsages are 'traditionally' pinned to the girl's dress, but if you have one for her wrist it avoids putting holes in her dress and the embarassment of you trying to pin it to her.

I would suggest finding a florist you trust (maybe ask your Mum if she knows of a local one that does good flowers and is reliable). Ask them to explain how a corsage would work, how much to budget for, and how early you need to order it. They might also be able to help you choose suitable flowers.

I'm all for the idea of unique flowers. Red roses are certainly romantic, but other flowers can be lots of fun. The good thing about the formal being so far away is that you can casually ask her now what her favourite flowers are, and then she'll forget she mentioned it and get a big surprise when you give them to her!

oh, one last tip about flowers... keep your eyes open from now on. If you see a really nice bunch of flowers anywhere (even if it's just someone carrying them down the street, or on a shop counter, or wherever) stop and ask the person which florist they use. The person will be flattered that you like their flowers, and you'll get an idea of who does the best flowers in town.