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hmmm somehow missed your post jb ..good to see that house is just a bit closer ....

and as an update, not that any of you care I'm sure, but....well tht $700 fix for my washer has turned into $2,200+...plus the oppertunit to run around on a sunday trying to get a washer after esentially being awake for 2 days.

*waves bye to savigns account, runs to hug her prius*

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..whats so good about being an 'adult'?

how about.. realising that life isn't forever, its a gift loaned to us for a relatively short amount of time
realising that it is what we make it.. not what it makes us

Sounds like things are a little rough for you right now, Babel -- sorry I'm a little overwhelmed myself. But, you'll get through, and you will be proud of yourself for having made it. Hang in there and keep your chin up!

$600 minimum for a new washing machine.

where are you shopping for a washing machine? i think we paid $350-ish for ours a few years ago. go to sears or best buy and browse through their selection, i'm POSITIVE you can find a cheaper washing machine than that

also, if you've been paying into "phone insurance" as part of your cell coverage, then you can call them up and say your display is broken and you want a new phone. they'll send you one similar to the one you have now most likely, which seems to be what you want anyway don't tell them it's stolen, or else they'll ask you for the police report

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"That's the trouble with political jokes in this country... they get elected!" -- Dave Lippman

moondog it has to be a front loading because of limited space in my house....and the cell is over 2 years old (did have a warantee but it was only for the 2 years) and didnt' have phone insurance ...that I know of ...but I can try...

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Babel, I truly understand how life can stink...
A few good things about be an adult:
1.you can eat whatever you want for breakfast (ie, chocolate cake, icecream, coke, dr. p. etc.
2.no curfew
3.parents still bug you, but hey you don't live under their roof (get caller id and you don't have to answer them if you don't feel like it)
4.you can legally drink
5.walmart at 2 or 3 am is a great place to go
6.and sleeping whenever/wherever you want is your option to a point...

Hope life gets better for you. today was my first day back in the classroom, and i'm exhausted...take care, Heidi

"I've got a great ambition to die of exhaustion rather than boredom." Thomas Carlyle

Funny how eating whatever you want keeps coming up ....I gotta admit it's true, my mom was always bugging me about being a veggie...I wanted to waaay back when I was little it was almost as if my body knew that it didn't like to deal with flesh, but when I was really young my mom made me (dispite her mother sister and brother all being veggie) then in high school sometime she said I could be veggie only if I read Diet for a Small Planet so I did and we decided to half and half....then when I went to uni I was preatty much able to do what I and my body were happy with, my mother still bugs me about it sometimes but I grumble for 10 after talking to her then wander off to make toast and pB or vegemite !

*wanders off grumbling about washers*

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My fave part about being adult is my daughter, currently 20 mos old. I love watching her discover new things and figuring out how they work-it makes me realize how wonderful everything is. For example, she learned how to climb up this slide at the preschool today (we were babysitting for a staff mtg, I used to work there). It has several overlapping wooden platforms that you climb to get to the slide. She finally did it by herself (I helped 3-4 times) and slid down the slide. She stood there clapping her hands for herself for a minute and grinning at me. That makes being an adult fabulous and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. Of course, there are times when she's cranky or teething that aren't so good but when she hugs you and snuggles into your neck then you are the happiest person on Earth. Anyhow, good luck with all your current misfortunes, Babelfish, and don't worry, things will look up soon.

-Beth

Funnily enough, my partner and I were discussing something similar to what Whetu said just yesterday. We(meaning Australians and Americans and other similar cultures)put an awful lot of pressure on ourselves based around the need for security and material possessions. Owning property is forefront in a lot of people's minds once they become an adult. In many European countries, people don't care about that so much. They're happy to go around renting and moving house and they know that the younger generation will take care of them when they're old, because they have that sort of community. Of course this is just a generalisation, but it's pretty obvious that in our cultures we are constantly having the idea pushed on us that we need to set ourselves up for our future, our retirement and our children's lives.

I don't neccessarily say that this is a bad thing, just that it is the source of a lot of the extra pressure you feel once you hit the 'adult' stage of life. Personally I'm enjoying being there right now. Although I'm only 21, I've been taking care of myself since I was 17. I'm almost done with my higher education, I have a clear idea of what my next steps are in my career, and I am currently searching for my first home. This is a very exciting time for me, especially after renting for years, I love the idea of owning my own space that I can decorate, paint, rip out walls or do anything else I choose (and can afford!). It's frightening as well, I have to admit, but I can't see it as anything but a wholly good thing in the end. I've seen what happens when you don't take steps like this; my mother has only just bought her first home at 45 and it restricts the freedom which I believe I will have later on in life. Contrary to settling down, I see it as a way to make it easier when the time comes to drop everything and explore the world for several years (and that will happen, oh yes it will!).

Anyway, I'm waffling! I'll just finish by saying that yes, sometimes I hate the stress that comes with managing your own affairs, the expenses which always seem to be more than the income etc. But I feel so stifled when I go to stay with my parents, I love them dearly of course (and I agree with the comment about parents becoming more like friends) but it still feels great when I get back home and in my own space again - my entire house which has me, my style and my possessions all the way through, not just in one room like when I was a kid! I love having my friends over and feeding them my own cooking and going to their houses, whenever we choose, and I love going out with them for a drink. I love having serious discussions with people where they respect your opinion. I love being able to prioritise my life, and deciding that the dishes can wait because it's more important for me to work on my thesis, or even just relax for 1/2 an hour! And I love having the responsibility to care for others too, whether it's my cat, my fish, my friends and partner when they need help and one day my children.

The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it. - Oscar Wilde

Being a kid was fun and I still have my moments where I definitely act like one, but overall, being an adult is FAR more FUN.

As an adult, I get to go anywhere at anytime to do anything. If I'm going to a stupidly gory R rated movie or a club for those who are older than a certain age, I can. I can go for a road trip on my days off if I want to. I can drive to a friend's house to say hi instead of calling. I can do ANYTHING that requires me to be a certain age to do it...

OR

I can go play miniature golf, rent G rated movies, and eat candy until my heart's content (which, for me, is ALOT of candy...). I can go sit on Santa's knee at the mall, go to a fair, go feed ducks at a lake, play video games, or go throw a baseball. I can do ALL the stuff I did as a kid as an adult, just now I can do it without having to ask my parents' permission...

Yeah, being an adult means I have to go to work and pay bills and care for myself and stuff like that, but I just relax and try to enjoy that stuff too. I get a kick out of going to work, even though I get the SAME questions asked over and over and over every day. I don't have many material things and I'm more than content with what I've got. If we just make sure we're content and not dying to have more stuff, we'll learn to enjoy being an adult no matter how much is going on in our lives...

PM/email/msg me if you have any questions/comments regarding me or my knowledge or if you want me to read a thread.

Babel, You paid over 2 grand for a washer n dryer. You are worse than my mate.

*takes babels credit card away*
*sends babel to the corner*

I can't take much more of this...

Give me a break, will ya??

Someone told me once to cheer up, things could be worse.

So I cheered up and sure enough things got worse.

--garyroland.

No Shannen, I paid 1,800 for a stacked front loading washer dryer, I don't have the luxary of side by side washer dryer, and I care about the environment too much to buy a top loader.


T'anks gary, now I have a reason to NOT cheer up when all the little kids tell me too . Once again your wisdom has proved valuable .

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[span class="edited"][Edited by Babelfish 2004-08-23 13:50][/span]

Babelfish, you paid too much for the washer/dryer, not that you could have gotten one cheaper, but heck, why wash clothes? With that much money, just go out and Buy new clothes and throw them away

Hey Babs...

I have wisdom I haven't even used yet.

Here's one I pulled out of my collection...

"To thy own self be true."

--garyroland.

When I was a kid/teenager I used to think about how great being an adult would be because no one would ever tell me what to do and I'd never have to clean my room and bathroom and I'd get to have cool stuff that I always wanted. Now I clean my room and bathroom at least three times per week and don't have nearly as much cool stuff as I thought I would because I'm trying to be financially responsible. I really like being an adult though, because no one is telling me what to do. I enjoy the responsibility and taking care of myself. My cell phone is acting up, and my roommate and I just had to replace our washer/dryer as well, and we still need to get a kitchen table, but it's worth it to be able to make my own decisions around the house and to take care of my own business.

I am an adult, almost.

So yeah, let me get back to you on that question in 6 months or so.

-- Gomer

Yes I wan't adults to reply, even though I know a majority of the site hasn't even graduated High school....so by adult I mean living on their own, taking care of stuff on their own ...that kinda thing

What's So Great About Being An Adult Anyway

Answer me that . What made it seem like a cool thing to be when we were kids, and why on earth hasn't it lived up to that. Between having two jobs that while they're really cool, just don't seem to give me that thrill anymore, and having everything decide to break @once (washingmachine, cell, electric outlets in the kitchen....), and trying to decide if I want to go for another piece of worthless paper that I'm likely to lose like the first one, adulthood just seems a hassle these days.

So what's so great abotu it !

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[span class="edited"][Edited by Babelfish 2004-08-16 09:27][/span]

Freedom.

Ditto. I can remember actually living at home. It was more than a decade ago for me. I would never go back and haven't looked back once. I love my life. I love my dog, I love my kids, I love my fish, I love my F350CenturionBronco Conversion with 460, I love my garden, I love going to wal mart at 2am because shopping is so nice in an empty store, I love going to work wherever I want and pursueing the things I want in life.

I never truely loved life until it was finally all of my own.

Koi

Empty chairs at empty tables, the room silent, forlorn.

childhood is wasted on the youth.