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i am 15m in Ny and i like this girl. right. i have been likeing her for 4 years and we went out once to the movies, but bombed out. n.e way we have been good friends and have fun together, but she has much more exprense with relationships and what not. also she has alot of guy friends]:|. i don't know weither to wait a while and make our friendship better. or what?

Hard call! If you say something you could make the friendship strained and uncomfortable, but on the other hand if you do not say something you will never know what could have been. I guess it comes down to what is more important... your friendship with her, or taking a chance at hoping for more. Then again, it can be a lot easier to regret the things you have done than the things you have not done. I am sure this is all just sounding confusing, but in the end you just need to decide if it is worth the risk to you... would you rather have her as just a friend, or not at all? Think long and hard before you make your final decision, and good luck with it!

lol, I think Stormy thinks you're actually considering NOT asking her out ever, as opposed to you just asking if you should ask her out now or wait a little longer...

It is still a tough call because you're sitting in a tough position. She considers you her friend, her good friend. The question is, can she consider you more right now or should you get closer to her and hope she sees that you want more...

Honestly, in this type of situation, I'd say that you should wait and develop the closest relationship that you possibly can with her before making your move. You've already been placed in the "friends" category, so I think your best bet for success is to try to get to the very top of that category and hope that she sees that you're the best person for her to be with because you're the best person for her, period. You're already kind of stuck hoping that dawns on her, so it's gonna be a challenge exposing that fact to her...

Just being "good friends" is definitely not an easy stereotype to get past. It'll take a lot of patience on your part, so good luck...

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Yeah, I sort of thought there may still be some question in his mind about whether he was ever going to ask her out again or not. If he has totally made up his mind about asking her out again, then I completely agree about holding it off a little and trying to work it in slow. If you jump right in she may think that was the only reason you were her friend after the first date bombed. It is a little hard for me considering I was never a 15 year old boy, and it has been a LONG time since I was a 15 year old girl. I have a 14 year old brother and cousin (girl), so I see how things are with them, and how they react to these situations. Do you even think she suspects that you like her? Is there any way you can sort of feel out the situation without flat out confronting her about it? It is a fine line to walk. Once you fall too hard into the "friend's" list, getting back over to the "more than friend's" list is hard to do. Like I said before though, good luck with it! And remember this... even if things do not go the way you want them to, and even though it might sound stupid to say, you are still very young, and it will not be the end of the world.

she knew that i liked her but i wasan't ready to ask her. i think i will wait. we still have alot of time together. hoping for the best.