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22 and all your friends are married with kids????

Where I come from that would be very young, and very rare.

I know maybe 2 males that got married under the age of 26 or 27.

Sounds like you feel pressured by the path your friends have gone down. Maybe they look at you and think the grass is greener too.

Just enjoy the girl you are with, all fun no pressure for the time being, just love the lurve

(maybe you could throw in a few more full words for us, text messaging is polluting the written language at a rate of knots!)

Last edited by wish-ga at 05-Mar-2005 21:51

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monster trucks
fish auctions
racing and import cars

Anyone see the inconsistancy here?

I'm petrified too, I think it comes with the territory Its a good petrified though, not bad

For animals, the entire universe has been neatly divided into things to (a) mate with, (b) eat, (c) run away from, and (d) rocks. - Terry Pratchett

She sounds like a good one Bry. Treat her right. Hope it works out

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Some days you're the pigeon and some days you're the statue.

Remember that age and treachery will always triumph over youth and ability.

ya the truck is a loud fast truck

shes been sheltered all her life n never really gone out n experienced the fun of life so its kinda nice i can get her into some of the things i like
like monster trucks
fish auctions
racing and import cars

but i had a chat with her
n turns out we both dont want to get married but jsut stay as a couple for as long as we can n see what happens
maybe jsut b commonlaw

but thank u all for ur replys n thoughts
its greatly appricated

trucks are bigger than the aussie ute.

think f100 kind of size

as for marriage. heck, i was engaged at 20, married at 21, and am still married.

Take your time. I ditto what bensaf said, you'll know when it is right. I knew. And don't regret a minute of it. I was with my ex for nearly 4 years. He just recently got married, and frankly, I'm glad it wasn't me! 4 years is a long time, and not only that, I saw that it wasn't going to go anywhere.

Think about it. You say you're scared - heck, I was scared. I'm still scared. The feeling of love may fade, but in that grows respect, and the CHOICE to love someone for the rest of your life is just an amazing feeling.

Over the past couple years since I've been married, I've experienced an entire set of emotions that I never felt with my ex. I'm scared to lose my husband. He means everything in this world to me, and the thought of NOT having him around is a scary thought.

You take a risk loving someone. But when it is time, you'll know for certain. You're 22, don't stress too much.

Live each day as it comes - don't try and plan your life out, because you never know what lays around the next corner - believe me, I learnt that in a PAINFUL way!!


Last edited by meriadoc at 08-Mar-2005 00:43

I think he means he has a truck (Ute for us Aussies) that flys like ^%$@# off a shovel and has more grunt than the Space Shuttle at lift-off....am I right?

lil baja toyota pick up but i took her out to see my other truck its a cut down ranger body slapped around a 350 chev on top of 30" rubber in the back

I wonder if I have to understand what that means before I can get engaged?

I am sorry but I don't understand a word of that *smile*

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haha glad u said that
she likes my lil baja toyota pick up but i took her out to see my other truck
its a cut down ranger body slapped around a 350 chev on top of 30" rubber in the back
n surprisingly she liked it cuz its black loud n fast lol
so shes worth keeping

"i guess i always planned on haven my life the way i wanted it before meeting someone
lil house big garage full of muscle cars, sports cars, my race truck, nice boat, big dog."

You just hit the nail on the head! Go for it...do those things first! That's just what I did and I look back fondly on those days.

thanks for the help
my best friend n boss has been divorced twice
as well as alot of my other friends to they say its like being single only u dont own as much

i guess i always planned on haven my life the way i wanted it before meeting someone
lil house big garage full of muscle cars, sports cars, my race truck, nice boat, big dog
but i do feel kinda pressured into settling down with her

i kicked my last g/f before her out after living with her for 8 months n sore id b single to at least 30 lol
oh well i guess *edit happens right

Last edited by DarkRealm Overlord at 06-Mar-2005 12:26

Bry,
I'm 22 as well. My fiance and I have been together six years and are just now engaged. I know how you feel though; most of my friends are married and have children or at least one on the way. Taking it slow is the way to go. If she loves you, she'll wait for you to come to terms with marriage.
Good luck!
Jen

BTW,

I got married for the first time at 24. I was divorced before I hit 25.

Got married again at 40. Actually it's my 2nd anniversery tomorrow (broke my own record).

THOUGHT I was ready the first time. Obviously wasn't. I KNEW I was ready this time. It's been great and I look forward to our future life.

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Some days you're the pigeon and some days you're the statue.

Remember that age and treachery will always triumph over youth and ability.

I was 33 when I got married (nearly 5 years ago). I spent my 20's and some 30's enjoying life and doing the things I wanted to do. Now I've got my own family and 2 great boys. Like Bensaf said it takes alot of work to make it all go to plan and for that reason I'm glad I waited a while till I thought I was ready to take on the "ball and chain"
Take your time. Show me where it's written that you must be married by a certain time.Bensaf has a few years on me (I'll be 38 this year) but like him I know I'm still young and have lots of time left (yes, when you get to 38 you will think you're young!). Bensaf's advice is good. Take some ....it's free!

well ill b 22 this month the 18th actually
i feel old n should b dead long ago from my crazy n reckless youth
its funny one day u jsut realize life passed by
- hi school is almost forgotten, college is over, friends i grew up with have gone to jail, gotten married, moved away, i sobered up after being a drunk, i call the guys up to party but there all babysitting there kids, everyone is gettin married, got carrers instead of jobs. it makes u feel old
i go to the bars n see all the young kids n even tho im only 3-4 years older then them its jsut not the same, does anyone else ever feel this way?
i finally found the right gurl i think n im settlen down to act my age for the first time in my life
and saddly enough shes absolutely amzing but im scared to death because the other nite laying in bed with her i thought bout her being my wife instead of my lady
ive been engauged once but it was a mutual mistake when i was 19.
but with this new gurl i could see myself with her for the rest of my life but im scared and i dont no y?
maybe its a fear of finally haven something to loose or finding something better?
has anyone else ever felt this way?

Another thing. My whole family seems to have been married at least three times. Don't. Rush it.

Have you two lived together yet? If you two can live together alright, that's usually a good sign. Solve any problems you have with her BEFORE marrying her. Just friendly advice, because divorce sucks. I've seen a whole lot of it.

thanks

Bry,

If I knew the answer to that I'd be a very rich man !

You just know. Not much help is it I guess it's wanting to share everything that happens in your life with the other person.

Of course it's rarely that simple. Marriage and relationships take effort and work. There will be bad times as well as good and that's were the work comes in. It's not as easy as "is the other person the right one?".
Even if she is, are you ready ? Are you ready to give the effort and perserverance and support when the going gets a little rough ?

Marriage is a partnership. So you have to take a good long look at both partners !

Is it worth it ? Hell, yes. A happy and successful marriage is about the most wonderful thing you can do in life. Love and family is probably the real meaning of life. It just doesn't come for free.

Take your time, your only 22, no matter how old you may feel you're still very young. I'm 42, I consider myself young but I've lived twice as long as you ! Make sure you're ready.Don't be frightened of the committment, just be sure you're ready to offer it.

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Some days you're the pigeon and some days you're the statue.

Remember that age and treachery will always triumph over youth and ability.

i jsut dont no
shes amazing n i think i love her but ...
for all the married ppl on here howd u no it was the rite choice? and have u ever regreted it?

I think everyone else at some point, (if they are old enough) has been to that point when they think could I ever be married to this person, what would that be like? Slow was a really good answer on this one. There really is no set period of time either for when you'll be ready or if you'll be ready with her. You'll just know without any doubts whatsoever when it is right. Nagging doubts and hesitations are usually with reason. Listen to your heart.

Empty chairs at empty tables, the room silent, forlorn.

Someone once said.

Pull down your pants and slide on the ice

You are just feeling what most of us have felt at one time or another.
Good luck my freind you will make it.

Tom.

Last edited by tommyc at 04-Mar-2005 10:04