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Have you ever loved someone so much but somehow you get totally mad at them and you just say the meanest things to get it out of your system during "heated conversation" and then totally feel better...to only feel totally bad that you could ever say anything so mean and hurtful the next day? (oh but it seemed so deserving at the time). And then because you did get that anger out of your system no matter how it was justified (verbally of course), the whole thing ends up being your fault because of that weekness.......
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[span class="edited"][Edited by Phone'sMate 2004-08-18 05:03][/span]

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Yes, but I have also found that if you love someone hat way then it is also worthwhile apologisin and if they love you in return they will understand and forgive you. Then you get to make up and in the end the relationship does tend to get stronger. I know it is hard to do the apologising, but it is always worth it. Hope you feel better soon.
Claire.

Be careful, treating people like that wears thin very quickly. Theres only so much forgiveness people have in them.

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Before you criticize someone walk a mile in their shoes. That way you're a mile away and you have their shoes.

I had someone who used to do that to me all the time... remember you can apologize all you want but once those words are out of your mouth they will never be forgotten.

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If at first you DO succeed, try not to look astonished.

Yes...I think in my case it's a matter of speaking before thinking Bad habit I'd like to break. I usually don't feel better afterward either, the guilt starts right away for me.

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There is water at the bottom of the ocean

Many of our behaviors and responses are learned reactions, something we picked up at home, or experienced in school, etc. The good thing here is that you realized you were angry (OK), and expressed it (good!), but did it in a mean spirited or hurtful way (not good!). Despite jokes about 'anger management', it can be very helpful to you (and your relationships) to relearn acceptable ways of expressing anger and disappointment. I believe if most people worked on this, there'd be a lot less heartache (and divorces or other spoiled relationships) in this world. Healthy emotions to you and yours!

I'm a very passionate person (no I don't mean like that get your minds out of the gutter) so I feel things deeply....alot of times if something bugs me I end up exploding, or reacting too quickly. I've tried many times to try to react slower, but it still sneaks out sometimes.
Do I feel horrid about it afterwards, yes...and alot of times I remember it for a LONG time afterwards....not sure where I was going, but I do agree with some of the comments made. Words can only be said so much before they start to lose meaning.

*hugs*

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Yes I did apologize. And no I would like to think that this is not a "bad habit" for me. I feel bad because no matter how bad this person did acutally deserve it, I shouldn't have let them push my buttons in such a way. I meant everything I said, I should have just kept it to myself. You live...You learn. Although this person also was very mean as well, I am the one making the "public apology"...I'm okay with that.