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My grandpa is dying. He was diagnosed with colon cancer 2 months ago and stopped eating shortly after that. I got called by my Aunty last night telling me he is nearly gone.
He is such a wonderful person and I have alot of childhood memories that I treasure. I am going to miss him.
Just needed to blurt that out somewhere.

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Before you criticize someone walk a mile in their shoes. That way you're a mile away and you have their shoes.

I'm sorry Lindy I remember when my grandpa died when I was 12. Be glad you got to have all those childhood memories with him

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Very sorry to hear that. Been through the same thing, even when you know it is coming it can be pretty devistating when it happens.

Sorry about your loss, grandparents are often the most special of people, I always preferred them to my actual parents .

Im a terminal preserver of old photos, so whenever theres a loss like that I set to work on restoring old photos digitally , then especially if you have relatives round the world who might wish to remember the deceased fondly with a piccy or two, you can send them as gifts. Its quite nice to reminisce about things from old photos when sometimes grief makes the memory fade a little. Its also something so that your kids can see who their great grandpappy was, and little things like that can be important.

I am so sorry to hear that Lindy. My Grandpa died when Mum was only 7, so I never got to know him, but I miss my Grandma very much and have very fond memories of her. She was very sick for a year before she passed and couldnt recognize any of us. I however, will always remember for the energetic old woman who could make the most amazing food and fill my days with lots of stuff to do and the great stories that she told.

I dont think I am qualified to give any advice here, but the best thing to do is to cherish what you can of the good times you had, and try and remember him for how things were when he was healthier and spend lots of and lots of time with him. These are going to be the toughest and saddest days that you spend with him, but he is going to need lots of support from family and friends.

Clowny.

He lives in South Aus (8hr drive) and while I could travel to see him I think i'd prefer to remember him as he was before he was diagnosed. My Aunty says he's looking pretty bad (as you would having not eaten for so long). I did take my boys over to see him last month which was good because he'd never met so he was thrilled.

Git, I do have some photos I could do that with but I wouldnt know where to start.

Thanks for the replies guys.

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Before you criticize someone walk a mile in their shoes. That way you're a mile away and you have their shoes.

Lindy, sorry to hear of this tough time for you and your family. Sendin' one up for you.


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~~~ My fish blow kisses at me all day long ~~~

I know your feelings. November of '04 my grandfather passed away of ALS. Basically, his organs just slowly stopped working, and when it started going to the vitals, including his mind, he just really fell apart. It was probably the worst way to go for such a great guy.

Dear Lindy,
Never an easy time, keep your thought's with him and he will know

Here's a little poem that circulates around work during these sad times.
Work = Nurse in Aged Care Facility.

Thought's are with you,
Rob.

Miss Me, But Let Me Go
Author Unknown

When I come to the end of the road,
and the sun has set for me.

I want no rites in a gloom-filled room.
Why cry for a soul set free?

Miss me a little—but not too long,
and not with your head bowed low.

Remember the love that was once shared.
Miss me, but let me go.

For this is a journey we all must take, and each must go alone.

It’s all a part of the master’s plan, a step on the road to home.

When you are lonely and sick of heart, go to the friends we know.

Bear your sorrow in good deeds. Miss me, but let me go.





Too many Kid's, not enough Fish

Sorry to hear about your grandpa, Lindy. It's been many years since my grandparents passed, but I still think about them to this day. So many happy memories. Be thankful you've had a good relationship with him and always cherish that.

Jim

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Water, taken in moderation, cannot hurt anybody. -- Mark Twain

Im sorry to hear about your grandpa Lindy.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
My grandmother died from cancer when i was 12 and i will never forget what she looked like on that last day before she passed. Your are making the right choice remembering him when he was healthy and happy. You will always have those happy memories with you.

If you ever need to talk or need support just post. Everyone is here for you

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Truth doesn't always win friends but it influences them

The time is nearing. I got a call from my folks, who travelled over to give support to my grandma and family. They have upped his morphine alot. I hope he passes soon, I want the pain to leave him alone.

Rob, thanks for the poem. It bought tears to my eyes.

Thanks to everyone else for their support.

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Before you criticize someone walk a mile in their shoes. That way you're a mile away and you have their shoes.

Hi Lindy,
I'm sorry to hear about your Grandpa, that is very sad.
I've been there and know what you're going thru. My best wishes for you and your family.


The Amazon Nut...

Don't worry Lindy the Morph will do it's job.
That's what it is for.

Too many Kid's, not enough Fish

Thinking of you. Take care of yourself.

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~~~ My fish blow kisses at me all day long ~~~

He passed this morning. RIP Grandpa. I know you'll be watching us.

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Before you criticize someone walk a mile in their shoes. That way you're a mile away and you have their shoes.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

"Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow." - Helen Keller

Milkyboy

Keep your chin up! I am thinking of you

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"it's the neck, it creaks under the weight of too much heavy thinking."

Lindy

*hugs*

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Sorry Lindy

I hope he had a good life,

Ingo

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