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So has anyone else had their lives handed over to them like this?

Yeah probably half of the adult population. I was 15 when I had my first child. My parents forgot to mention what the birds and bees were They kicked me out onto the street. I lived from house to house and even in a car for a short while there with my son. I still went to high school and held two jobs and didn't have a car for the first two years of that. I graduated at 17 valedictorian. Moved 1500 miles to another state where I could rent an apartment. Because I was not of legal age I was unable to sign a contract and had lived from house to house to house. Took on three jobs, one of them a factory job at night unloading 52 foot trailers for the United Parcel Service, one working the deli at the base commisary, the third telemarketing Sprint. At the same time I was a full time student at UNO studying Business. Not only did I have to pay for college and everything else but all througfh it I had to pay for childcare. In the end I turned out to be an Accountant. I still have a couple of years left on those student loans and times have always been tough, but don't fool yourself. YOU are more than capable of handling this. Things will be just fine in the end.

BTW congrats to your father for being accdeted into one of the most prestigious Engineering Universities in the entire world. My father went there, my brother is still there now. It will take a lot of hard work and commitment, but Ga Tech grads are never jobless lol

Koi

Empty chairs at empty tables, the room silent, forlorn.

Keep your chin up buddy, you'll do just fine.
YOU CAN DO IT !
One day and one step at a time...

The Amazon Nut...

Well my parents stopped supporting me once I graduated high school, though I still lived with them until I was 20. I really needed to get out; I was becoming very unstable and depressed, but had nobody to move out with (and couldn't afford to move out alone).
My best friend found me a room mate and got me out of there... Thank God. Seriously, I do not think I would be here writing this if I were forced to stay with my folks.
Rent is okay, I actually have more free time and money than when I was living with my folks. However part of that is that I am now walking distance from work...
I hope things work out for you. As stressful as it may be at times, it is wonderfully liberating to be on your own. Good Luck.

I'm so adjective, I verb nouns!

Filoviridae

Excently put. Some people come up against a little trival problems and think the world is against them and has delt them a shocking hand.

You appreciate it more if you have to work hard and go through very tough times.

It is all those little things that builds a good and strong character for you future.

Keith

Near enough is not good enough, therefore good enough is not near enough, and only your best will do.
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Financially independent at 16, left home at 18 with only the clothes I was wearing - borrowed a bean-bag from a friend until I could afford to buy a second-hand mattress from the Salvation Army.

Was a migratory worker on farms and orchards for a couple of years, hitching my way from one job to the next. Looked after my Grandmother as she deteriorated from Alzheimer's disease when I was 20. Eventually put myself through university.

This is only a small part of my story and it's not designed to be a sob story. My brother and sister have both had it far, far worse than me and at younger ages. But I don't regret a SINGLE MINUTE. It made me what I am today. I value my qualifications (I went on to do post-grad stuff too) and I'm accountable to nobody but myself. I'm independent, resilient and resourceful.

You'll do fine Racso. Learn to trust in your ability to make it through whatever gets thrown your way. At times it won't be easy but all the tough times now will build you into a stronger, better person.

Good luck, be strong, trust yourself.

Filoviridae...

Good for you!!!! You are a testament to what is possible. I imagine your parents are proud. Congratulate them for me, they did a fine job of raising you.

I hope Racso reads your post over a couple of times. I guarantee each time he/she does he/she will learn something new. Good Luck Racso...

"Welcome to the real world" I really hate this phrase due to the fact that I've been in the real world for what seems like an eternity and I'm not quite 24 yet (it makes me feel old ). I've had a job since 12 (babysitting, mowing lawns, mucking out stalls, baling hay). I held down a "real" job starting at 15 and held that job until I graduated from high school and left to attend a major university. I took out loans to pay for classes and held down multiple jobs while attending. I also never went back home. I got an apartment, worked for my rent and for a car, paid my own bills and insurance. I've lived though eating crackers and peanut butter for lunch and dinner and through the scariness of not having health insurance if I got sick or hurt. But after all that hard work and preserverence I now have a great job (that is helping and will help a lot of people) that pays well. I'm paying back my student loans early, my other half and I have started paying for a house, I send money to my parents to help with their bills, and I actually make money at the end of the month instead of just breaking even(or comming up short). Things have turned around nicely.

Trust me, it seems bad now because you just kind of get thrust out of the nest, but you will look back and see how much more responsible it has made you and how well you can take care of yourself. There were many nights that I called home practically in tears because life seemed so hard and I couldn't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I'm sure my parents wanted to help but they were often in the same boat I was(and unfortunatly still are), especially after so many lay offs and a dwindling job market in their area. Now looking back since things have turned around, I know that no matter what happens I have ability to get though it. In time you will also look back with the same confidence.

geez, the health system over there sounds really broken

thats just scary, i dont envy you racso...


*remembers she needs to find ambulance cover*

For animals, the entire universe has been neatly divided into things to (a) mate with, (b) eat, (c) run away from, and (d) rocks. - Terry Pratchett

So my parents decided that they are moving down to Atlanta for my dad to go back to Georgia Tech to finish his degree. Well, thats bad for me:

my job is here
my school is here
my girlfriend is here
my LIFE is here

SO I get to start my life, at the age of 18, with a little kick. With ONLY my job (which I am being shafted on salarly) I have to find and pay for an apartment, find and pay for a car, and then once I get those, I get to pay for me, other bills, and to top it all of, COLLEGE!

Aren't my parents nice?

So has anyone else had their lives handed over to them like this? (no one who still lives with parents has really been through this)

Um, you may want to have your parents check with their health insurance company... my parents were able to leave me on it as long as I was enrolled as a full-time student up to the age of 24 (only needed it 'til 21). They just continued to pay the family rate. They may also have to claim that you are still financially dependent on them in order to do it but my parents insurance company did not even check. And, comparing from my health insurance company the family rate is only about $10 more than just the 2 of us per pay period (so, $20 per month). Anyhow, worth looking into to save yourself some money. And, they kept me on their car insurance policy as well... until I was 21 and engaged and on my own fully... I paid them for it but me added on to their car insurance was a lot cheaper than getting my own. Just a few suggestions. Good luck.

HTH,
Beth

that sucks, so your job isn't in the city?

i don't live in the CITY city, but i work about 30 minutes away, and the bus doesn't go to far. Another problem, with my college, I am required to have health insurence. Insurence from the UNI will cost a little over $100 a month, while my job insurence will cost about $40 to $80 a month (YAY, better).

Plus Car insurence. Many dealers are now requiring you to have car insurence before letting you drive a car off the lot now.

So to add to my crisis, I have to also pay for Car and Health insurence.

i had lived on and off my own between 18-21 with minimal support from my parents. but then i decided to move out on my own at 21 and i've been on my own pretty much for the last 7-8 years. it helps if you can find a nice place that doesn't cost too much (especially if you have a girlfriend who wants to move in with you ). and i agree with the bus pass if you can swing it, it will save you more money than having your own car just remember that if you want to succeed, you will have to find a way to make it happen. you are in control of your own destiny as far as your future is concerned.

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I moved out on my own at age 17, right after I graduated. Was, and is, difficult at times, but if you're willing to compromise, it's do-able. Oh, and when I moved out I was a manager at mcDonald's making $8.58/hr after 2 years with the company. The money was bad. I did, however, get a new job. Why do you need a car? I'm assuming you live in a city...? Why not get a bus pass?

Racso.

Sorry to hear all that but life has not even started for you yet. At 18 my father died very suddenly, I had to complete my apprecticeship (very poor wages) support my mother and attend night school as well. Life is just one big challenge.

Keith

Near enough is not good enough, therefore good enough is not near enough, and only your best will do.
I VOTE DO YOU if not WHY NOT?
VOTE NOW VOTE NOW

Yes. When I was 16, about to go into my senior year of high school, my parents decided to move to Brisbane (we were living on the Gold Coast, 1 hour away) for work. They invited me to go with them, but there was no way I was changing schools in my senior year. I ended up living with my grandmother - not quite on my own, but as she is a pensioner I was chipping in a lot for bills and housework etc. I had a job and got myself there and to school every day. It was a lovely year, a nice 'halfway house' that made it easy to move out and start looking after myself when I was 17 and in uni. It is difficult to start 'real life' that young, and the money problems etc. can be quite shocking at first. But now I'm really glad it happened that way, at 21 I feel much more independant and able to deal with things than some other people my age - a couple of my friends have only left home within the last year, and I can see a difference between myself and them.

I really hope it works out for you Racso - it's definitely a lot of stress to go through all at once but try and see the good side! And don't forget that no matter what, your parents will always be there for you. They just need to live their own lives as well!

The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it. - Oscar Wilde

Yes. At the age of 18 I left home and have made it all on my own since then. I moved to another province, worked at odd jobs for a year and then decided to go back to college which I funded myself.
At eighteen you are an adult in the eyes of the law and your parents don't have to support you. I don't know what your home situation is and if you get along with your parents or not or even if you choose to follow their house rules. All these things could have a bearing on their decision of wheter to continue supposrting you or not.
On the other hand, you COULD choose to move to Atlanta with them.